Friday, 7 June 2013

You Really Don't Need to Compare Yourself with Others!

Do you know people who are always comparing themselves with those around them? I know I do. In fact I used to do this in the past but now I don’t really do it as often as I used to and I know eventually I won’t do it at all, because I came to an understanding that we are all different and that true nobility consists not in being better than anybody else out there but in being better than you used to be.  With every passing year, I am getting better and better at it and I can tell you that this is really empowering. “When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.” Lao Tzu

If you compare yourself with those around you who are not as good as you, you will feel better but there are also people out there who are doing better than yourself, and if you focus on that you will feel really frustrated, sad and depressed. You are you & in this world no one is exactly like you, you are unique and you have gifts that were given to you when you came into this world and you have to identify what those gifts are, and work toward improving yourself and sharing your talents and gifts with the world. Giving is receiving and if you ever made something nice for somebody without expecting anything in return you will understand what I’m talking about. Learn to give not to get.
We should get over with this need of always trying to get better than those around, giving up of always comparing and always competing with the world around us, trying to be number one, wanting to have a bigger house than your peers , a more beautiful partner, a more expensive car and so on. I look around and what I see is people who are living for everybody else expect them. You see, if you grow up looking for ways to always please others and always doing what others think is best for yourself, you lose touch with the person you really are and eventually you lose yourself, you lose your identity.

I had to listen to somebody recently complaining about her life, telling me how depressed she is and how she sees herself as being worthless, a failure. Of course she isn’t, she’s not a failure, she is young, she is beautiful, intelligent and is a very creative soul but if she is constantly comparing herself with everyone around her, she can no longer see the beauty that there is her. The problem with many of us is that we don’t have the courage to listen to that inner voice that tells us it is time for a change, we don’t listen to our intuition and we keep on doing the same mistakes over and over again. You see, I really believe that intuition is nothing else than God, the Universe, or whatever name you want to give to that higher power that created us and the world we live in, is talking to us.

Prayer is us talking to God, to the Universe while intuition is that invisible and higher power answering to us, and if we ignore our intuition, of course we will feel frustrated and lost because we are not living how we were supposed to. When we do that we are saying that our plan works and God’s plan doesn’t. It is never too late to make the shift in your life and you need to be courageous and brave and decide that you deserve to be happy and make the necessary changes.
“Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.” Earl Nightingale
We do learn from mistakes, that is true but we don’t have to make all the mistakes ourselves. If we are wise enough, we can learn more from other people’s mistakes. I hope you will find the courage to go after your dreams, get out of your comfort zone and do it. Step by step, one day at a time. Make each day a beautiful and peaceful day and that will lead to a beautiful and peaceful life. You don’t have to do it all at once, that’s impossible, but you have to decide that it’s time for a change and commit yourself to your goals. Be patient and keep your dream at heart.
“Picture yourself in your mind's eye as having already achieved this goal. See yourself doing things that you'll be doing when you've reached your goal.” Earl Nightingale